I generally prefer at least a week’s notice. However, if you find, at the last minute, that you will be in the area, you can certainly let me know and I'll make every effort to work you in. To me, each and every nephew or niece is special, and it takes a little bit of time(within reason) for us both to be comfortable, establish a good connection and for me to learn all your body language. Communication is very important. I do tend to stay busy, so don't be offended if I am not able to answer an email immediately. I'm not ignoring you honest. IF it seems too long since you wrote don't hesitate to drop me a not as sometimes things seem to go off into the ether, lol.
Individual sessions can be Simply Spanking, Role-Play, Therapeutic Spanking or Disciplinary. I have also worked with couples, and do online consultation/direction for specific situations.
I need to restate: I am not a Dominatrix and do not engage in BDSM activities with clients. My clothes always stay on. There is no intimate touching of any kind. This is not a sexual service, and any request for such will end the session immediately and I will ask you to leave.
With that caveat in mind, if you have a need, desire, or idea about something specific, feel free to contact me. I'll be happy to discuss it and if it is not something I do, I will certainly let you know. I'm not judgmental until I actually have you over my lap and the paddle in my hand, lol. Then, I become judge, jury and...Disciplinarian.
Individual Working one-on-one is a wonderful way to address your specific needs. I will get to know you very well: not only your specific needs and desires, but also your beginning tolerances, how you react at different stages, and what really work best for you. You may be surprised at what you learn about yourself as well. Establishing a good sense of trust is very important. Please know that we will discuss all sessions in detail beforehand, but once we get started, Your Auntie Rhi knows best. Then, all negotiating is finished and I will be immune to pleading and wailing. It's for your own good, after all, and we all know it will hurt me more than it does you!
Simply spanking sessions are ideal for clients who have never experienced spanking as an adult, or just simply like to be spanked without the drama and/or complications. Of course, the methods, implements and intensity will be tailored to your tolerances, which we will be learning together. I am very good at watching body language, as well as the condition of the skin to judge how we are progressing, but I also employ the, tried and true, traffic light safeword method. “Yellow” means go a little more, and “Red” means stop. I will respect your boundaries. If you ask me to push them some more, I'll still be watching for your sincere limits.
Role Play covers a variety of domestic and other possibilities. Just to reiterate, all references to “boy/girl,” “child,” or any reference that might be thought of as a "non-adult" is purely a term of endearment, as all clients will be 18 or over. Various roles might be Auntie/nephew-niece, Governess/ward, Babysitter/child, Mommy/son, Wife/husband, Girlfriend/boyfriend, Teacher/student, Boss/employee, Nurse- Doctor/patient, or Policewoman/offender. The intensity of these sessions can be moderate to severe, but again, every individual is unique. What is mild for you might be severe for the next person, so we’ll make sure to determine your needed intensity. Let me know the journey where your imagination might take us. I do have two "assistants" that help with various role plays. One is a fairly accomplished spanker in her own right and the other takes a spanking that anyone can respect. So if you need a witness or another spankee to complete your scenario, just let me know.
Therapeutic Spanking is designed to allow for the “warm glow,” release of tensions, or even the catharsis that a spanking can bring. Pain is usually not the primary focus, though again, the intensity will be specific to the needs of the individual. Some people need the pain to bring up the endorphins to reach the state of consciousness they are looking for. Rhythmic breathing and biofeedback techniques are employed to assist with the transition. Usually there is music or relaxing sounds playing during the session, as well as scents to induce relaxation and attain the desired “space.” Aftercare is more involved, as it’s important for the client to be guided back from the experience.
Disciplinary Spankings can be related to behaviors in your past or current life situation, and offer strict, but caring, accountability and motivation, with or without a Behavior Plan.
Personal Behavior Plan- discipline will be designed both with you and for you to address real issues in your life. This includes working with you to set up reasonable, measurable, and obtainable goals, rules and/or schedules for behavior; as well as specific consequences for failing to meet goals or breaking rules; and rewards for positive progress. You will report to me at least once weekly by email, or by another method we agree on, and we will discuss how you are doing with your plan and what you will expect at your next visit. A Behavior Plan is good for 6 months, and as it involves regular visits, in person or in some cases via cam, sessions along with the weekly monitoring chats, the plan provides for a specific reduction in the session rate during that 6 month period.
Couples I enjoy working with couples, and there are several options available. If you have a specific situation you don't see outlined here, by all means drop me a note and let's discuss it. Chances are that we can figure out a way to develop something to meet your specific needs.
A person who wants to learn to spank his/her spouse, and needs some real- time hands-on instruction and experience.
A wife who isn't comfortable inflicting the actual punishment, but is supportive and/or even desirous of her husband receiving the punishment for behavior she finds intolerable (In the specific case, the wife kept track of goals missed or rules broken and sent a note with the boy when he came to his visit, pinned to his shirt. She also inspected my return note, his bottom and then discussed his spanking when he got home.)
A spouse who wants and needs domestic discipline (spankee) may have a difficult time communicating the intricacies of performing that discipline to his/her partner (Spanker), even if the partner is willing to try. Having an experienced Auntie to help explain, give a demonstration, instruction and hands-on direction can assist with the learning curve. This can make the Spanker feel more confident, and in turn, the spankee to have more confidence in the Spanker. This also allows the spankee to stay in a non- directive role. That helps keep the spanking roles consistent.
A couple might have a role play that they really want to both participate in, or a situation that would need a strict Auntie to set the tone.
Online/Phone Consultations I am available for IM, email and/or phone consultations, either on their own merit or to augment your regular visits. When we begin to communicate, we will go over specifically what your needs are, and discuss the possibilities more in detail. I will do chat or email role play however it has to be interactive. I do NOT, however, write stories. I have tried it, I don't enjoy it, I'm not good at it; and therefore it stresses me out. NO ONE wants a stressed Auntie, lol, and I don't want you to be disappointed. Please DO NOT send me money before we both understand and agree on the format we're going to follow.